Rarely do I ever hear a woman boast about the fact that they have perfect hair. No matter what texture a woman has, there is always a problem she has with her hair. I want to make a point to say when I talk about having 4c hair, I am not complaining. I am also not trying to say that I have it worst, although I’m sure if people got to choose their hair most wouldn’t choose 4c. As always I am simply talking about my experience. I wrote about the inner struggle and external struggle in this post. Now I am going to talk about the battle with my hair and how I learned to manage it.
People say everyone can not wear short or rock natural hair. The truth is – if someone decides to do it, it is their choice and it is up to them to decide if they like it or not. I know we value our looks and looks are important, but when someone makes a decision that affects them, then that is their decision. If a person wants short hair, who are we to tell them it doesn’t look good because we don’t like it. At the same time, I have learned that when you make a change to your appearance you have to be aware that everyone is not going to accept it. I am a strong believer in not putting too much thought into what anyone thinks. As an adult, you have to realize that you can do whatever you want with your hair. Whatever you choose will come with a price literally and figuratively speaking, but it’s your choice.
I am a black women teaching and living in Kuwait with natural hair. I point those specific things out not to separate myself from others, but to explain that these are parts of me. I am not sure why you are here reading but is to my purpose to present my perspective on life. My hope is that you will finish reading feeling encouraged to be yourself and want to come back for more inspiration. I have many stories to tell and at this moment I want to open up about my natural hair journey. It is my intention to be transparent about my life and share things along the way. So the next couple of weeks my natural hair journey will be the focus.
I watched Love and Hip Hop Miami and it finally hit me how toxic this show is. It’s all about insecure people blaming and projecting their self hate on others. They lie, cheat, scream, and fight all to show others how important they are.
What caught my attention in this season was a clip of Amara La Negra explaining her racial background to Young Hollywood. He made an ignorant comment about her afro not being elegant and he acted like he didn’t understand the meaning of Afro Latina. Fast-forward a few episodes and Amara and her friend Veronica Vega are fighting from what stemmed from an ignorant comment. After this I decided that I had more than enough drama for one day. Amara’s storyline is relatable, many naturals know the struggle of wearing kinky hair. It is seen as unprofessional and it is not acceptable in our own community. However, it is not any ones job to accept you, that’s a personal problem.